Sitting at your computer hours on end and living a sedentary lifestyle is the “modern equivalent of eating too much steak and smoking cigarettes” as this article suggests. Can you imagine doing all three? People who smoke don’t really have active lifestyles do they? Throw in a high cholesterol diet and the death clock for these people starts spinning rapidly. No wonder heart disease is the number one killer in America. If you fit this category, please listen up!
IF YOU SMOKE DO YOURSELF AND YOUR LOVED ONES A FAVOR: STOP TODAY! (Why are you being so selfish?)
IF YOU INDULGE ON HIGH CHOLESTEROL FOOD, FATTY FOOD, FRIED FOOD – GO VEGAN FOR A DAY (or a week!)
IF YOU HAVE A JOB WHERE YOU SIT ON YOUR ARSE ALL DAY (jobs are hard to come by…) HEED THIS WARNING: Your body will mummify from the inside out if you go all day without moving. Your ticker will get used to a life of largesse and learn not to work so hard. A heart not working hard leads to a short life. Understand that your desk job is literally killing you.
During your breaks get up from the desk and instead of chatting by the water cooler hit the stairwell and get in as many flights as you can. During lunch go for a walk. During the course of the day try to encourage standing or walking meetings. Whenever you talk on the phone do so standing up versus sitting down. These little things will keep your heart in better shape and your bum less flabby. They may just extend your life a bit longer too. Your heart will thank me.
The people who continuously display a high level of energy and enthusiasm are people we all tend to gravitate to.We like people who are bubbling with happiness, confidence and excitement. Why is this? And why do we prefer them over people who are quiet, reserved or humble?
It has to do with how we feel about ourselves and I will argue, a lot to do with our personal energy levels. When we see an energetic person we immediately want that energy to rub off on us. When we see a non-energetic person we perceive them to be an energy vacuum who will suck the energy from us. Before every social engagement our minds try to predict which way the energy balance will tilt and we do this based on the appearance and attitude of those we engage with.
Face it: we are always trying to change people, encourage them to act, encourage them to like us, change them to our way of thinking. We do this continuously with every single social engagement no matter how simple or innocuous. Every time you talk to someone you are trying to impart something onto them. You are trying to entertain them, educate them, enlighten them, make them angry, make them sad, make them feel the way that you do. To do this requires energy and so we make subtle initial calculations to determine how much energy this conversation will require. We ask ourselves “Is it worth the energy?” because we know conversations can be physically demanding sometimes!
People who are quiet or hide in the shadows are sending us a message that they want to stay that way. They want to remain hidden and they do not want to be exposed. If we strike a conversation with these types we run the risk of having our energy sucked from us. The opposite is true when we speak to high energy people. We are either emboldened by them or intimidated by them.
Personal energy greatly affects how you are perceived and in this world those that are perceived to have high energy tend to get the spoils. Those who are perceived to have low energy only attract others with the same low energy.
Here is the scenario to think about: When you see someone with high energy are you attracted to them perhaps wanting to know more about what they are saying or doing? Or are you intimidated by them and therefore shy away from them? Perhaps your mind is saying: “I don’t have the energy to compete in a social engagement with this person.” On the other hand, when you initiate in a conversation with someone chances are you feel confident that you are at least on par with their energy level. If you have low energy you tend to talk to other low energy people. High energy people attract others with similar energy.
Can you see how energy affects peoples success at least in social circles? Next time you find yourself in a social engagement consider asking yourself if you are an energy producer or an energy drainer. Energy producers get much more attention.
If you are overweight the challenge to lose a few pounds becomes greater the more weight you put on. Losing weight requires a continuous focus on balancing the right amount of calorie consumption and calorie burn. The more overweight you are, the longer and more strident this focus must be and because of this many people simply quit. Have you ever heard yourself say: “I will just always be fat.”?
Weight loss is a very daunting challenge. It can take months, if not years of careful eating and exercise to get back to a healthy weight. Some people whither in the face of this challenge. Is this you? Have you decided to give up?
If you have given up ask yourself these questions:
- Do I want to live to see my grandchildren?
- Am I setting a good example for my children?
- Can I comfortably tie my shoes?
- Can I easily get out of bed in the morning? Off the couch? Or easily get out of a car?
- Am I easily fatigued? Tired all the time? Do I wish I had more energy?
- Am I happy to live with these quality of life issues?
After you have asked yourself thee questions are you still willing to give up on weight loss? You know you can’t give up. Instead, you simply need to remind yourself of why you are trying to lose weight. “I want to set a good example for my children, therefore I am going to try harder!” This is the attitude you need to have.
At a point of despair when you believe that weight loss is impossible just remember it is not something that happens over night and that it IS worth fighting for. There is too much at stake. My suggestion is to try to simplify things into a set of rules:
“I cannot easily tie my shoes, so… I will no longer eat pizza until I can.”
“I cannot get out of my car very easily, so… I will no longer drink soda and until I can.”
“My kids run circles around me and therefore I am going to try to run circles around them.”
Boil what you are trying to do into a number of steadfast rules that are very black and white. Make these cardinal rules that you will never bend. If you keep at it you will be chasing after your kids in no time!
This is one of my favorite lines from the movie The Matrix. The character played by Keanu Reeves suddenly realizes that he can kick some serious ass. I wish I could plug into a computer and come up with the same realization. “I know Kung-fu!” So why am I blogging about this and what bearing does it have in your life? To understand, we need to rewind the tape to forty years ago.
It was in 1973 that the martial arts masterpiece Enter the Dragon was released into theaters. Bruce Lee’s epic performance inspired an entire generation of young men to want to be ass-kickers. Now even a scrawny, little guy can take on the campus bully and Mr. Lee provided us step-by-kung-fu-step instructions on how to do so. The writers of The Matrix were no doubt inspired in the same way.
As a young teenager I was a big fan of the Saturday morning Kung-fu theatre (do they even have this anymore??). I used to spar in my living room and make the sounds of a Chinese kung-fu master as I fought imaginary opponents. I would then go down into the basement and start doing pull-ups from the ceiling joists until I collapsed because I wanted to be tough like them. When I first watched Enter the Dragon I realized that I had no “game”. I learned that to be a master, I had to triple, perhaps quadruple my efforts. I was in awe of the skills and mastery of Bruce Lee and so I worked harder. Without Bruce Lee I probably would have ended up as a fat kid who played Atari all the time. Instead, I began to transform my physique at a key point in my life as I developed into a young man.
OK, so you may not be a male, or a teenager for that matter, and you may not be currently bullied in school or at home (I have four older brothers who liked to wrestle me down and put underwear on my head…dirty underwear that is). Having Bruce Lee motivate you may be the farthest thing from your mind but I think this is where you may be doing something wrong. I think everyone needs a role model especially if they are facing hardship (or in our case trying to become healthier). Perhaps you can learn something from my story.
I want you today to begin to model yourself off of your own idol. Find someone who can inspire you to workout more and lose weight. Just a little thought and a little research into this will go a long way. Find a personal hero and let their energy and enthusiasm rub off on you. Without a role model you need to rely solely on your own energy and your own motivations. I suggest you pop in the tape Enter the Dragon and let Bruce Lee inspire you. Tell yourself “I know Kung Fu!” and start kicking some ass of your own!